婚姻的肖像

四個人的悲劇⋯⋯

Harold總說Violet is poison，但是在我看來，最poison的可能是Vita。Vita自己也說，她最愛的是自己，這也是為什麼她在這兩段關係裡顯得被動又寡斷，對兩個人都無法敞開心扉，完全信任。或許他是知道，但由於愛得過於深切，抑或是想要逃避殘酷的現實，以至於將一切都歸罪於Violet。

儘管很同情這兩位男性的遭遇，但是還是很反感他們身上流露的一些男權社會的思想。Denys自信於Violet終歸會嫁給他，Harold認為Vita在家種花育兒便是快樂的，等等。

我個人其實很不喜歡Vita，她對待Violet的態度，無論是得知Violet要結婚後將她拽入房中，還是後面掐著Violet的臉質問房事，都讓我反感，彷彿Violet之於她只是一件物品。

Violet的率性和勇敢，倒很是令我感動。她有那種飛蛾撲火的熱情，她大方承認自己的「邪惡」、自己的隨心所欲，相比之下，Harold顯得怯懦多了。這或許也是Vita醉心於她的原因之一吧，like drug in tedious life。

她們倆是絕配的，但我覺得肯定也只能是短暫的，一個燃燒得過於熾烈注定難以長久，而另一個無法承諾長久。

從一開始，或許就已經能望到結局。但人生難道只求一個結果嗎？

比我年纪还大的一部短剧，BBC出的又一款经典，可以让人克服那个年代的渣画质。全剧四个小时，节奏紧凑。我几乎分不清这是爱情还是欲望还是什么。片子的元素乍一看有同妻、出轨、婚外恋、女女。要说Mar和Violet之间是爱情、是欲望、是想要占有对方，应该不会有人反对。但是Mar与她丈夫之间到底是一种什么感情，Violet与她丈夫之间又是什么关系，总感觉三言两语说不清道不明。一个人会同时爱上两个人吗？女主对丈夫是恋人还是朋友间的爱？Violet依旧与丈夫保持关系这是欲望的贪婪还只是逢场作戏？亦或者Violet真的没有对女主不忠？一切都是合约婚姻？每个人对这些关系的理解肯定不尽相同。在我看来，女主与丈夫友大于爱，Violet是一个诱惑人的小妖精，及时行乐，追求欲望的满足。两位丈夫都还算绅士，虽然有对妻子有所不满，却仍然关心爱护与尊重他们。

剧情有起有伏，起伏中突出了女主对追求真爱放弃婚姻这一决定的摇摆不定，也为最后决定离开家庭铺垫了许多，使得她们两个之间的感情表现得更加浓烈。四个人之间的关系往往被拆成三个人一起展示，角色间有制衡，使戏剧张力更强。

我羡慕剧中那种觉得失去彼此就不能活的神仙爱情，可能正因为我没有得到过如此热烈的爱情，我才无法理解眼里容不得一点沙子那般对身体忠诚的洁癖。

(1) Violet Keppel, Don't Look Round (1952)

No one had told me that Vita (Sackville-West) had turned into a beauty. The knobs and knuckles had all disappeared. She was tall and graceful. The profund, hereditary Sackville eyes were as pools from which the morning mists had lifted. A peach might have envied her complexion. Round her revolved several enamoured young men.

(2) Vita Sackville-West, Autobiography (1920)

I hate writing this, but I must, I must. When I began this I swore I would shirk nothing, and no more I will. So here is the truth: I was never so much in love with Rosamund as during those weeks in Italy and the months that followed. It may seem that I should have missed Harold more. I admit everything, to my shame, but I have never pretended to have anything other than a base and despicable character. I seem to be incapable of fidelity, as much then as now. But, as a sole justification, I separate my loves into two halves: Harold, who is unalterable, perennial, and best; there has never been anything but absolute purity in my love for Harold, just as there has never been anything but absolute purity in his nature. And on the other hand stands my perverted nature, which loved and tyrannized over Rosamund and ended by deserting her without one heart-pang, and which now is linked irremediably with Violet. I have here a scrap of paper on which Violet, intuitive psychologist, has scribbled, "The upper half of your face is so pure and grave - almost childlike. And the lower half is so domineering, sensual, almost brutal - it is the most absurd contrast, and extraordinarily symbolical of your Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde personality." That is the whole crux of the matter, and I see now that my whole curse has been a duality with which I was too weak and too self-indulgent to struggle.

(3) Violet Trefusis, letter to Vita Sackville-West (March 1919)

My own sweet love, I am writing this at 2 o'clock in the morning at the conclusion of the most cruelly ironical clay I have spent in my life.

This evening I was taken to a ball of some good people. Chinday had previously told all her friends I was engaged so I was congratulated by everyone I knew there. I could have screamed aloud. Mitya, I can't face this existence. I shall see you once again on Monday and it depends on you whether we shall ever see each other again.

It is really wicked and horrible. I am losing every atom of self-respect I ever possessed. I hate myself. 0 Mitya, what have you done to me? 0 my darling, precious love, what is going to become of use

I want you every second and every hour of the day, yet I am being slowly and inexorably tied to somebody else... Sometimes I am flooded by an agony of physical longing for you... a craving for your nearness and your touch. At other times I feel I should be quite content if I could only hear the sound of your voice. I try so hard to imagine your lips on mine. Never was there such a pitiful imagining.... Darling, whatever it may cost us, my mother won't be cross with you any more. I suppose this ridiculous engagement will set her mind at rest....

Nothing and no one in the world could kill the love I have for you. I have surrendered my whole individuality, the very essence of my being to you. I have given you my body time after time to treat as you pleased, to tear to pieces if such had been your will. All the hoardings of my imagination I have laid bare to you. There isn't a recess in my brain into which you haven't penetrated. I have clung to you and caressed you and slept with you and I would like to tell the whole world I clamour for you.... You are my lover and I am your mistress, and kingdoms and empires and governments have tottered and succumbed before now to that mighty combination - the most powerful in the world.

(4) Nigel Nicolson, Portrait of a Marriage (1973)

She (Vita) didn't know how strong and dangerous such passion could be, until Violet replaced Rosamund. Of course she knew that "such a thing existed", but she did not give it a name, and felt no guilt about it. At the time of her marriage she may have been ignorant that men could feel for other men as she had felt for Rosamund, but when she had made this discovery in Harold himself, it did not come as a great shock to her, for she had the romantic notion that it was natural and salutary for "people" to love each other, and the desire to kiss and touch was simply the physical expression of affection, and it made no difference whether it was affection between people of the same sex or the opposite.

It was fortunate that both were made that way. If only one of them had been, their marriage would probably have collapsed. Violet did not destroy their physical union; she simply provided the alternative for which Vita was unconsciously seeking at the moment when her physical passion for Harold, and his for her, had begun to cool. In Harold's life at that time there was no male Violet, luckily for him, since his love for Vita might not have survived two rivals simultaneously. Before he met Vita he had been half-engaged to another girl, Eileen Wellesley. He was not driven to homosexuality by Vita's temporary desertion of him, because it had always been latent, but his loneliness may have encouraged this tendency to develop, since with his strong sense of duty (much stronger than Vita's) he felt it to be less treacherous to sleep with men in her absence than with other women. When he was left stranded in Paris, he once confessed to Vita that he was "spending his time with rather low people, the demi-monde", and this could have meant young men. When she returned to him, it certainly did. Lady Sackville noted in her diary, "Vita intends to be very platonic with Harold, who accepts it like a lamb.' They never shared a bedroom after that.

来源：//spartacus-educational.com/Wtrefusis.htm

几点碎碎念，

1. 羡慕这两个人的关系，友情以上，soulmate的感觉，加之亲情。难怪Vita对Violet坦白她incapable of being faithful的时候却说唯独一直深深爱着Harold. 港真这难道不是形婚的最高境界吗！！！

2. Janet McTeer太棒了，与看完vita & virginia的感受截然相反，这版vita完全勾起了我想要了解这个女人的欲望。

3. 最后一段感觉dramatize过头了，不知道真实情况什么样的，需要看原著再自己慢慢挖掘吧。没想到Vita占有欲这么强，得知女朋友和自己合法老公睡过就要死要活的，各种锤墙掐人放狠话，相比起来我们煤老板就隐忍多了，被情人的老公间接传染了性病也只能打碎牙齿和血吞。。。(误) 还不认识煤老板的给一个传送门: //www.douban.com/doubanapp/dispatch/movie/26989670

4. Vita Sackville-West有被译成中文的作品吗？大致找了一下，约莫一部也没有？！书信集可以先翻起来，天啊这几个人都是那么的能写，感觉阅读量巨大。。

5. 这个Vita我太可以了让我流一会儿鼻血...连Harold都忍不住夸穿着马裤的Vita好帅...